Jenny McCarthy: Autism Moms “Fall in the the victim role…and they are loving it”

Jenny McCarthy: Autism Moms “Fall in the the victim role…and they are loving it”.

A response to Jenny McCarthy’s claim that mom’s who aren’t “Warriors” are “Victim’s” attacking any mom who parents a child with autism is pointless and harmful. Maybe your income level does not allow you to be a “Warrior” or maybe you simply can not reconcile spending thousands of dollars on treatments that may or may not work. I am not bashing anyone for their choice on how best to help their child.
Does anyone know if her child has autism? I know a lot of mom’s believe recovery is possible. I am not so sure. My son started with what our state (Michigan) calls Early On for early intervention. We do not have an ABA program near me. At 3.5 he entered an ECSE program completely non-verbal. We did not receive an official diagnosis until age 6. By that time he had been verbal for two years. Speech therapy helped him immensely. The school added in Occupational Therapy in 2009. He has SPD as well. The OT helped deal with his SPD. In 2010 when we received his official dx we took him to private OT. We also started him on A GFCF diet. I learned about this diet Through a book I won. Ironically it was Jenny McCarthy’s own Louder Than Words. He is now 8 and is going into a General education typical 2nd grade public school classroom. He still receives speech, OT, and resource room. He is verbal, but has difficulties communicating sometimes. A lot of the issues he had like super huge meltdowns, behavioral issues in a public setting, etc. have been greatly reduced with therapy. If you had met him at 3.5 and then saw him now at 8 you would never believe he’s the same kid. He has made HUGE progress and still he is in no way recovered by any means. Nor do I believe that if Jenny McCarthy’s son really ever had autism that he is recovered. She still refers to her child as having autism. If her child had recovered why would she do that? Autism is a brain based difference and I don’t believe any amount of treatment has the ability to change your brain’s functioning completely. And I most definitely am no victim. Just my children’s mom.


About The Spectrum Mom

I am mom to two amazing children!! Jade my oldest is ten and Adrian is 7. My life happens to have one beautiful blessing in disguise the chance to be a mom to a child on the Autism Spectrum. Adrian was diagnosed with PDD-NOS on May 28, 2010 shortly after his sixth birthday. Since the start of our lives on the spectrum I have read books, watched numerous programs, found therapists, tried to navigate the public school system and special education. Looked into special diets (Adrian is currently on GFCF and we have seen tremendous improvement) and tried various medicines to help him. In addition to ASD Adrian also is diagnosed with ADHD and a seizure disorder BRE. This blog will mostly be about ASD and my life caring for Adrian.

Posted on June 17, 2012, in Activism and tagged . Bookmark the permalink. 6 Comments.

  1. Arlene Rosenzweig

    I agree. It’s ashame that a celebrity like Jenny McCartney, who has the power to help people, uses her power to blame and hurt people. I am the mom of an 11-year-old daughter who has autism. Raising a child with autism is far more complex than raising a child who is neuro-typical. So much more effort, time, money and sacrifice must be given in order to support our children and help them reach their potential, whatever that may be. Many families with special needs children are alienated and isolated. No mother would ever ‘wish’ her child had autism. Jenny McCartney is making it even more likely that moms with children who have autism will be avoided by others. In the 1940s and 1950s people felt that autistic children had uncaring moms. Of course it has been proven that autism is a neurological disorder having nothing to do with a mother’s love. Let’s not let Jenny McCartney’s comments undo how far we have come. Let’s not let her comments hurt the many moms who need support and acceptance from others. Let’s praise and support wonderful moms everywhere who work hard and give so much for their children.

  2. I wrote a post on this issue, too. I think we all need to raise our voices together and talk back!

  3. Well said and no one can know a child better than their parents and no person has the right to insult people who work so hard to help their kid. People like you who get down and do the job are the real warriors.

  4. I also wrote up a post voicing my opinion on the Jenny McCarthy issue.

    I agree with what you said about Jenny not being able to understand the difficulties and complexities the rest of us are living with. Many of our options are very limited due to a lack of regional resources or financially, or both. She exists in a reality that is so out of touch with ours, she can not comprehend what we face on a day-to-day basis.

  5. Wow Susan…words like this are so harmful and I am so disappointed about the things that Jenny McCarthy has said. Many people will look to her as a leader in the Autism discussion because she is a celebrity and can make her voice heard. It’s a shame that she would put Autism moms into such a narrow box. So glad you spoke up on this!!

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