Category Archives: Activism
A response to Jenny McCarthy’s claim that mom’s who aren’t “Warriors” are “Victim’s” attacking any mom who parents a child with autism is pointless and harmful. Maybe your income level does not allow you to be a “Warrior” or maybe you simply can not reconcile spending thousands of dollars on treatments that may or may not work. I am not bashing anyone for their choice on how best to help their child.
Does anyone know if her child has autism? I know a lot of mom’s believe recovery is possible. I am not so sure. My son started with what our state (Michigan) calls Early On for early intervention. We do not have an ABA program near me. At 3.5 he entered an ECSE program completely non-verbal. We did not receive an official diagnosis until age 6. By that time he had been verbal for two years. Speech therapy helped him immensely. The school added in Occupational Therapy in 2009. He has SPD as well. The OT helped deal with his SPD. In 2010 when we received his official dx we took him to private OT. We also started him on A GFCF diet. I learned about this diet Through a book I won. Ironically it was Jenny McCarthy’s own Louder Than Words. He is now 8 and is going into a General education typical 2nd grade public school classroom. He still receives speech, OT, and resource room. He is verbal, but has difficulties communicating sometimes. A lot of the issues he had like super huge meltdowns, behavioral issues in a public setting, etc. have been greatly reduced with therapy. If you had met him at 3.5 and then saw him now at 8 you would never believe he’s the same kid. He has made HUGE progress and still he is in no way recovered by any means. Nor do I believe that if Jenny McCarthy’s son really ever had autism that he is recovered. She still refers to her child as having autism. If her child had recovered why would she do that? Autism is a brain based difference and I don’t believe any amount of treatment has the ability to change your brain’s functioning completely. And I most definitely am no victim. Just my children’s mom.
For about three weeks now I have been following the story of a little girl in Canada who was taken from her dad. The little girl is Ayn and she is Autistic. On June 12 she went missing from her backyard. She was found three hours later two houses down playing in her neighbors back yard. Then Four days later The Ministry of Children and Family Development came to take Ayn. Their argument being that because her father is a single parent to her and her two brothers one of whom is also Autistic they would “lighten his load” by taking his daughter. His parenting skills have not been called into question nor has he been proven unfit as a parent. It seems apparent that because his child wandered and cops were called they came and took his child. This could happen to any family of a wandering autistic child anywhere and it further proof that either law enforcement and protection agencies no nothing about how common wandering is or they just do not care.
What I can not understand is how they took away one of his children who has Autism but not the other? If they were that concerned about his children’s safety and had cause to remove any of his children wouldn’t they have taken all of them? This seems to be the case whenever I read about children being removed from the home in the states. If they have cause or even when there is not cause all children are removed not just one. Now the boys and their dad have to be separated from Ayn for no apparent reason other than she wanders. I can not even imagine the hell that little girl is going through being in a strange place separated from every one she knows and loves for reasons no one understands. Her brothers and father who I am sure cry for her and miss her every single day. There is no excuse for separating a loving and caring family. I am urging everyone to sign the petition and join the Facebook group. Please show your support. Every signature counts and you’ll be helping to make a family whole again 🙂
This is also the petition to bring her home:
My name is Derek I am a single father of three wonderful young children, aged 9, 10 and 11; my youngest two have both been diagnosed with severe autism. Though a constant and challenging struggle, I have done my best to protect and nurture them, as I love them so much and have dedicated my life to their achievement of happiness. My youngest child is a bright and beautiful little spitfire named Ayn. She has and is blossoming so well here at home and has come so far to overcome her obvious disability, she does however continue to struggle and outburst when in other environments, particularly at school. Ayn is naive and unaware of the dangers that exist in the world at large, so when on Sunday June 12th she escaped the backyard we were very worried for her safety. With each passing moment the likelihood that something terrible had happened increased, as Ayn should stand out from other children easily and should have been quickly spotted. Fortunately Ayn was discovered two doors down playing in a neighbours backyard, the neighbour had taken an afternoon nap which provided Ayn with the ability to play undisturbed. The challenges I have faced in caring for my daughter have been encompassing and life altering, these challenges are very dynamic and new challenges arise as fast as the old one depart. Now with her discovery of the neighbours nearby trampoline and pool, she will undoubtedly seek to return there, vigilance will be required to face this new found challenge, but it is one which I must now face just as I have with each prior challenge and as i would have to with our future challenges as well. As it stands today I may never get that opportunity. On the morning of June 16th two workers from CPS arrived at my home to request that I “voluntarily” give Ayn over to them (she was at school at the time), if I refused they would simply coercively remove her. There should be no illusions here when someone approaches you and says “give me your child or i’m taking her” you should not pretend that any such choice would be done “voluntarily”. Within hours of her removal Ayn had hospitalized and drugged with powerful neuroleptics, one of which at double the maximum daily dose. Her whereabouts has been concealed from me, due to me refusing to sign the voluntary agreement. And I will not be given the opportunity to argue before a judge as per why this was a wrongful removal for months. After twelve days of hospitalization, in which the hospital noted “no bruises or evidence of physical abuse and her body status showed no evidence of neglect” , and “Initially there was some suspicion of ADHD along with autistic aggression, but this dissipated as Ayn improved…”. The hospital insisted on discharging her (june 28th), she is now in foster care awaiting further hospitalization as the Ministry has waitlisted Ayn for a longer term residential based psychiatric assessment. My little girl is autistic, she does not require a psychiatric assessment, I am aware that she does not understand the dangers that lurk, I love her and I protect her, when Ayn has a tantrum at school it is me they either call in to calm her or send her home to, when she is injured it is to me whom she turns because she “needs a bandage”. The greatest successes this little girl has had were nurtured in the home, she loves it here, she loves her brothers and she loves her Dad, It is my firm belief that if our system of child protection has reached a point where a happy thriving child who was not abused and in no need of medicating, can be coercively removed from their family, forcibly medicated within hours, denied access to that family punitively, and the family is given no redress for months potentially years; then we are indeed facing a systemic problem. A problem which unfortunately is not confined to my city or province, nor even my country, for these acts are playing out around the world. Please help me get my little girl back and to address this issue in such a way that it never affects another family again.
I would be forever in your debt,