Steve and I been debating for several months now whether to buy Adrian a bicycle or a scooter. At first Steve did not want to buy him either. Adrian has issues with walking for periods of time and his motor skills are delayed. Neither of us were sure he would be able to maneuver either.
Today we were shopping at Wal-Mart and I suggested we stop in that section to see what they had. We found a couple of different Razor models and then Steve came across one he liked. It is a Fuzion Sport Scooter. It boasts a wider deck and 4 wheels, instead of the slim two-wheeled style, with a rear break. The Fuzion Scooter seemed to be a better fit. We bought the last one in stock.
Then Adrian had a mini meltdown because daddy had to take a different aisle than mommy and he thought mommy was lost. We picked out his helmet and finished our shopping.
On the way out we decided to get Adrian’s hair cut. It was so long. He was the first customer in and he did so wonderfully.
Once home he helped his dad put together the scooter and then he went riding for a little while. The scooter leans which ever way you lean and he was nervous about that part. He got it though. Steve had to show him at first and then he did it himself. I was shocked. My husband was so moved he was almost crying. It is a big HUGE leap for our son.
His sensory issues keep him inside often. I was just mentioning that to Steve. Last year that would have never happened. He complains when we are walking to his bus stop five minutes away. His sensory issues take a lot our of him and our home is his safe place. Nothing is ever too loud or too bright or different too often. We hear about it if it makes him concerned. That is a new development too. Him being able to tell us what bothers his senses is wonderful.
I am so proud of his accomplishments. He has to work 10 times as hard to do things “typical” people take for granted. I can not even tell you how great it is to see him progress.
I attended a seminar this past Tuesday on Anxiety and Sensory Processing in children and teens. I went because Adrian has Sensory Processing Disorder.
The presentation was given by a counselor and an Occupational therapist. We went over what we can do to help our children and the different activities for situations.
Below is an outline:
What Can We Do?
Sensory Diet – Sensory Diet
Relaxation Methods-whatever helps calm your child down and relax them. For Adrian the is usually what I call a deep pressure massage. I squeeze along his extremities lightly.
Occupational therapy- Adrian did three months with an Occupational therapist privately in 2010, but during school since 2009 he sees an OT once or twice a week.
Neurofeedback-Neurofeedback Adrian has a 24 hour EEG every three to four months.
Listening To Music
Jumping On Trampoline
Carrying Heavy Objects
Throwing A Ball
Eating Crunchy or Chewy Food
Drinking Through A Straw
Core Strengthing Exercises
Parent Support Group
Speech, Physical, or Occupational Therapy
Community Mental Health
Beyond Consequences by Heather Forbes
I do not get sick often. This past Thursday I got sick. It felt like stomach flu. Not pleasant at all.
My husband thankfully was home that day. I went to relax and then took a nap.
As I was falling to sleep I hear Adrian. He is waiting for daddy to make him lunch and is talking about mommy being sick.
He says very sweetly “daddy mommy is sick, she vomited and her tummy hurts. We need to take care of her like she takes care of me”. Then daddy asks Adrian how he could take care of mommy “soup and leaving her alone so she can sleep”.
I wake up to “mommy your awake. Do you feel better?” with a sweet kid like that how could I not?
Then he starts talking about the time he vomited all over his room and mommy had to scrub it clean.
And people say no child with Autism can understand oh they don’t have feelings and they can’t think like us. I’m pretty sure our son would prove any doubters wrong in an instant.
He has thoughts, feelings and can show empathy just like any other child alive. Different, not less than!
Details for a giveaway smart apps? for kids is having can be found at the link below. Theyhttp://www.smartappsforkids.com/2012/07/todays-giveaway-big-grips-frame-and-stand.html are giving away an iPad case made by Big Grips.
My husband and I do not go out often. Since giving birth to our first child I have gladly given up those carefree nights of going out. Our first child was born while we lived on post in Fort Sill, Oklahoma. We did not have family around at all and I rather throughly enjoyed being at home with Jade. Adrian came along 28 months later after my husband had finished his service and we moved back to Michigan. We had all of our family around and that is really helpful. Our Adrian was not your typical child. He did not want to be held by anyone but me and cried when even I picked him up. We left him with family members occasionaly until age 2.
At that time he started having a lot of anxiety about me leaving him. He would scream a lot of the time when I was gone. At this point I really had no idea what Autism was or signs. I was so clueless. I had a child who had just begun to walk and could not speak. Every minute was spent trying to keep him from destroying something. He had delays and our early on worker had quit without warning. They never sent another worker out.
I could not see leaving my son who was joined at the hip to me basically with anyone for any period of time. I loved being with him. We spent a lot of our time with me trying to engage him. At 3.5 he started a program at our district school for Special Education. He was immediately enrolled in speech therapy and it did not take long before he was speaking. He started voicing his disdain for my leaving him. He did not like being left with his dad. Any time we chose to leave him I would hear after about him crying for mommy the entire time. It always upset me. I opted not to leave him anymore. We rarely ever do. I always reassured him that I would be back. Now since he knows time I tell him what time I will be back.
After diagnosis we started receiving a subsidy check from our state which is for children with certain disabilities. The director offers us Respite services every year. I have refused because of Adrian’s extreme separation anxiety. Respite in our area requires that you find a caregiver who the state will pay to watch your child so many times a year. This week he made progress. My husband and I decided to go out for the first time this year and asked his sisters to watch our kids. When we left the kids were playing in an outdoor pool. We were gone 5 hours and when we came to pick him up there was no running to me to have me pick him up and he did not cry or ask for me once.
He is becoming so independent. Part of me is sad because he is the last child I will ever have, but the other part is so happy because he was not anxious worrying about me. This time last year he would have still been asking for me. I am so proud of him and how far he has come. He will always be my baby, but I am glad to see him improving a skill. It is important to want to be independent. Steve and I cherish every minute he allows us into his world but i do not want him to feel anxious every time I leave. It’s not good for him. I am more than willing to give everything I have to the two greatest accomplishments of my life. Our son letting go and having confidence means we must be doing something right. The photo below is of Adrian at 3.5 on September 22, 2007. Shortly after he started his Special Education program.