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I finally got Adrian to bed. Jade is not so easy lately. They know school is coming quickly and seem to be wanting to savor every last moment of summer. Today was a crazy day in which we replaced a badly dying refrigerator. Adrian HATES change!!! Most of my day was spent listening to him repeating that we did not need a new Silver refrigerator, but needed to keep our old White refrigerator. He even went so far as to put himself in the refrigerators space and pretend to be the old one.

His uncle came over to help his dad move the old refrigerator and when his uncle went to pick him up I saw his body stiffen. Another change he was not expecting I am sure. Most people know not to touch him unless he initiates it. That does not stop a few family members from still trying to hold him or pick him up. You can see the physical changes in his body. Though he did not react the way he normally would today. He did not scream at his uncle. I tried to explain to him why Adrian does not like to be touched and he said it’s okay he likes me. I said it is not about him not liking you. He simply does not like to be touched. He said nothing and told Adrian he would see him again soon to which Adrian replied see you again soon. This uncle is one he does not see often maybe four times a year. He does like him though so that is good 🙂 I just wish more people would get it.

Back to the refrigerator… The delivery men arrived and Adrian tried to run out to them and say hello! Something he did not do before teachers started insisting that he greet people. Now he thinks it is okay to greet everyone. We had our discussion about why we do NOT talk to strangers and he looked for the new refrigerator. The delivery men had to take off our front door to get the refrigerator in and Adrian cried for the front door. He was wailing put the door back on. When the task was complete and the delivery men were gone I asked Adrian if he wanted to help me put our items into the new refrigerator. He of course was hesitant. He tried to put his Silk in the refrigerator and got mad because it is set up differently then our old one so he could not put it in the same spot. He often becomes agitated with tasks like this. If they went one place and no can not he gets angry. He helped for a little while and then lost interest.I am sure I will hear more about needing our White refrigerator back tomorrow.

The events of today have me thinking towards the school year about to begin. Adrian will be in a new school with two new teachers and new classmates. How does a child who can not handle the replacement of a refrigerator cope with that level of change? I expect many difficulties. This weekend I will be working on writing social stories for Adrian to take with him to school. Hopefully these stories will help get him ready for his changes. His school is having an open house on August 31. I plan to take plenty of photos to use in his stories. His last school had him do several trips to his new school last year to help prepare him. I am hoping that helps too.